Vipassana – again… This time my destiny led me to the birthplace of Buddha – the town of Lumbini in Nepal. A small place visited by Buddhist pilgrims from all over the world ( there are estimated 350 million Buddhists worldwide ). A relatively small area became a construction grounds for Buddhist monasteries representing different branches of Buddhism. From Japan and China to Sri Lanka, Thailand and Tibet. It was not the Buddha’s place of birth that was the main reason for my visit though. I came here to take part in yet another experience of Vipassana meditation. While many who had come here would enjoy the beautiful temples and monastery gardens, my journey will take me more “inside”, to the fertile gardens of my own mind. It was time to do some pruning and weeding! The fact that I would not be spending much time admiring what’s outside was readily reflected in the stark architecture of the Vipassana meditation center where I was to spend the next ten days. Actually, the place looked more like a prison than anything else.. The purpose of it being – not allowing the distractions of the outside world to weaken the focus on the world inside.. Vipassana – it is not an experience for everyone. Not everyone is inclined to test his or her body and mind with the severity of silence and intense inner work, meditating ten hours a day for ten days straight. The first few days are always difficult but the results of this tremendous effort can be as surprising as the intensity of the effort itself. Intensity that is difficult to compare to anything else. Ten days of absolute silence, nearly continuous meditation and observation of the many inner processes taking place in each and everyone of us, reveals the truths and realizations about ourselves that sometimes we wish we didn’t know. And all of this takes place in the company of twenty to hundred and twenty silent people who just like me, try to learn something about themselves, figure out why they are the way they are and why their life is unfolding the way it does. It is not very often that we have an opportunity to ask and answer ourselves questions like these. It is not very often that we have the time and environment to go this deep inside. Perhaps it is why many European Vipassana centers are booked full well in advance and every year new centers are built all over the world… ...
Follow Nature – Natural health cultivation.
The way of Nature Mother Nature provides. Listen to her voice. Listen to her instructions. Her voice is part of you. She will tell you what to do. Use her elements to stay fit and healthy. Use air, sun, earth and water. You are part of her. Do not avoid her. Flow with rather than against her. She is your teacher. Learn. Pay attention to your own body and everything around it. Use breath to control your body and your mind. Discover the breath as a wonderful connection between one and the other. Breathe deeply and fully. Keep things simple. Don’t over-complicate. Life is complex enough as it is. Simplify your work. Simplify your foods. Simplify your needs. Simplify your life. The more things you add the more complicated things become. Seek beauty in simplicity. Enjoy simple pleasures and learn how to recognize them throughout your day. What you do is what you develop. Repetition develops habits. You have a choice of what you want to develop. Do more of what and how you want to be. Do less of what and how you don’t want to be. Repeat it long enough and it will become your nature. It will become you. Live your own life. Get inspiration from others but you are the one who has to walk the chosen path. Make it your own by doing not just reading or thinking about it. Pick what suits you best. Discard what is not your cup of tea. How to tell the difference? – you might ask! Ask yourself! You and only you can answer this. Realize what comes to you naturally. You are a unique individual with your own strengths and weaknesses. Nurture the former and get rid of the latter. Pay attention to what you eat and drink. Combined with the air you breathe – this is what you are made of! Choose fresh and avoid processed foods, especially sweets. Variety is important. Think why you eat, how much, what you eat, when you eat, and how you eat. Let your body rest and recover after intense physical exertion. Let your digestive system rest and recover regularly. Your body is designed to feast and fast. Let your mind rest and recover. Find your favorite form of meditation. Make sure you get a regular good night’s sleep. Feel the hunger regularly. Do not stop moving! Your body is designed to run, jump, lift and twist. Pay attention to your posture. Repetition creates habits! Make sure you get a daily dose of physical and mental activity and stimulation. Sweat every day. Good stress (eustress) is the very stress that provokes change, adaptation and development. Find time to commune with nature and its elements. Don’t always insulate yourself from cold, heat, rain or snow. Train your body and mind to adapt to changing circumstances. Appreciate. Develop a habit of finding things, situations and people in your life to appreciate. Realize how lucky you are! ...
Appreciation
Every day I try to remember to appreciate every moment. Every day I try to remember how lucky I am. Every day I try to remember what a privilege it is to have food, water, roof over my head, shower, refrigerator, health, freedom, education, family, friends, time and much, much more! Every day I try to remember not to get irritated by the little inconveniences that life provides from time to time. Every day I try to remember not to complain and feel sorry for myself just because I forget that the little moment of unhappiness I happen to go through is not the center of the entire universe! I try and try, day after day, over and over again until it becomes a habit. Until it becomes something completely natural. Until I fully realize there is nothing missing. And when my expectations, ignorance, self pity and sense of entitlement are gone, all that is left is APPRECIATION. ...
Two sides of the coin.
Yin and Yang or the aspect of duality is present in everything. Male/Female, Day/Night, Dark/Light etc. etc. It is no surprise then, that our daily cultivation includes both elements. We are not trying to find some imagined quality of neither Yin nor Yang. Quite the opposite – embrace both as an integral part of life. As long as they remain proportional to each other and our particular needs, we will remain in balance. When trying to instill healthy habits, we need to remember about both sides of the coin. For example: Yang Yin Exercise, move with intensity, speed. Exercise, move gently, slowly. Eat abundant, nutritious food. Rest from food, fast. Breathe deeply, with intensity. Breathe slowly, practice breath holding. Spend some time in the city. Spend some time in nature. Get used to, practice with the heat. Get used to, practice with the cold. Think, use your intellect. Meditate. Work. Be active. Rest. Sleep. Etc. The list never ends. Both sides are needed. Be creative. ...
The best for you…
The best exercise system is the one that works for you and can be sustained indefinitely. The best diet is the one that works for you and can be sustained indefinitely. The best health habits are the ones that work for you and can be sustained indefinitely. ...
Eustress and Distress – Yin and Yang of health cultivation.
There are many different aspects of our health and well-being. Mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, social, environmental. Our cognitive and intellectual abilities. Our physical functionality. Our mental and emotional attitudes, patterns, habits, conditioning. Our social interactions and exchanges. Our environmental influences: the water we drink, the food we eat, the place we live in, the area we are surrounded by, attitudes and expectations around us. They all influence our physical and mental condition. We all have our strong and weak sides. Sometimes our strength is our mind, or memory or mental agility. Sometimes our weakness is our lack of physical stamina or flexibility or strength. Or the other way around. There is a vast number of possible combinations. Usually, we are inclined to do the things that are easy for us. Things that we’ve trained ourselves for in the past. Unfortunately doing only what we are already good at will only lead to further imbalances. Just like only doing the crossword puzzles will not be enough for the mind, a little bit of yoga or tai chi or weight lifting might not quite do it for the body. We need to address our whole being in a complex way. Develop our creativity, push our limits, and find new challenges. So, let’s start learning about ourselves. It is important to assess our predispositions, cultivate our strengths and really focus on improving our weak areas, achieving much more sustainable balance overall. It is often difficult to admit to ourselves that we are lacking in some areas of our lives. The first step is to acknowledge that there are aspects of our being that can use some work and improvement. In the physical realm, we are often tempted to prioritize activities we already feel comfortable with. For example, we’ve already achived a measure of coordination or flexibility and we tend to dismiss the need for some strength or speed work to be done, finding numerous reasons and explanations for not doing it. The same goes on in the mental sphere of our development. If we’re good at math we frequently like to excuse ourselves from being familiar with more abstract areas of knowledge. We often argue that we can not master everything and it is true as long as it doesn’t become just an excuse not to challenge and develop our adaptive capabilities. At this time and age, most people are familiar with the concept of stress and the negative consequences that can come with it. Unfortunately, very few of us have ever heard of Eustress – the positive stress which stimulates, motivates and generally contributes to the development and strengthening of our abilities to function in the most effective and optimal way. A well documented and researched example of Eustress is the influence the physical exercises have on our body development. Gradual and systematic training leads to a harmonious growth and development, improvement of many biological markers, and positive changes taking place on the mental and physical level. Regular mental training leads to a similar efficiency and an accelerated ability to absorb, process, interpret and utilize new data. All of these findings point out to the realization that we should not be avoiding challenges in our lives. Self-imposed challenges prepare us for the challenges that life will surely present us with sooner or later. By regular practice of things that are difficult for us we inevitably become better equipped for dealing with them at the time of need. It is obvious that if we experience difficulties with our joints, special attention needs to be directed in that direction. If we experience lower back pain issues, we should take an extra close look as to what the causes could be. If we feel overwhelmed by some mental tasks we need to face, this ought to be an area of a special interest for our training. As soon as we begin to practice this kind of perspective, we realize that the opportunities for work and improvement are very abundant in all aspects of our life. As soon as we begin to implement the knowledge of how beneficial the difficulties can be for us – a new realm of possibilities opens up! Do you notice the blessings that come with every challenge you face? Are you aware of the opportunities coming with every challenge? ...
Accepting life’s changes.
I am extremely grateful for my teachers, my wife, my family, and friends and all my life’s experiences that have led me to this moment. I can not imagine being able to be who I am without them all. It is a challenging time for me now. My dearest mother’s ability to take care of herself is slowly decreasing. Just like I needed her for a big part of my life, she needs me now. The choice is not difficult. I need to be here for her. Traveling or not – makes not much difference. My practice continues in the place where it is needed the most. Surprisingly, I am comfortable with this change. Life continues to amaze and surprise me. In a good way. Thank you all who’ve helped me to get to this place. ...
A simple thing to remember.
How many times a day do we expect something from our children, spouse, family, friends, coworkers, bosses, or the world in general?! How many times we are deeply disappointed when our expectations are not fulfilled right away?! I want my partner to be like this. I want my children to behave like this. I want people to be like this. The question is: what do I give? What is My behavior? How can I expect something from others when not doing it myself?! It is not a difficult concept. The consequences of its applications are remarkable though. It doesn’t mean that the world will automatically follow your lead. However your understanding of others can vastly improve. Try it. Before you look for purity in someone else – first find it in yourself! Before you look for kindness in someone else – first find it in yourself! Before you look for understanding from someone else – first find it in yourself! Before you look for generosity in someone else – first find it in yourself! Before you look for selflessness in someone else – first find it in yourself! Etc etc. to be used daily ...
Relativity of perception. Challenges and opportunities.
It is often difficult to call something “positive” or “negative”. What we call bad is frequently the result of misunderstanding and not following the natural order of things which results in what we generally refer to as ” negative” occurrences. For example: “bad weather”, rain, being tired, cold etc. Complaining about it is like complaining about the fact that we have to breathe. Without these things we simply wouldn’t be able to survive. Imagine that it is sunny and warm all the time. Without rain, the area could quickly turn into a dry, hot desert. What if we don’t do any physical work? We would end up with a weak and underdeveloped body. If we always insulate ourselves from the environment, trying to maintain a comfortable temperature all the time, any sudden change becomes too much for our immune system and we get ill very easily. How come we do not appreciate the gifts of life given to us everyday!? The”bad” or “negative” is nothing but our perception of a lack of harmony, being out of sync with God, Tao, our Inner Voice, our True Nature etc. What do you see around you? Good or bad? Positive or negative? Do you understand why difficulties happen in your life? Do you take advantage of these challenges to work on your own strengths and weaknesses? ...
Hiding in Tao.
When we follow the Tao/God/our True Nature/ Inner Voice… and manage to let go of our ego, even for a moment, Everything becomes easier. There is no longer a need to worry about anything. Everything is the way it is supposed to be. We know our place on earth. Here. We know why we are here. Because. We know what to do. Whatever needs to be done. We don’t even ask ourselves these questions anymore. Empty mind. Happy heart. Joyful smile. When our energy level goes down. When our mood is low. Hide in positive. Hide in good. Hide in love. Hide in Tao. There is no space for anything else when you’re full of love. Blue sky. Sunshine mind. ...
